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At last! Your daughter is getting married - but what about the father of the bride speech?Traditionally the Father of the Bride Speech is the first speech to be given, after an introduction from the Best Man. Today is not the day to worry about remembering words. As an emotional father, your main aim for the big day is to survive it!
Who will be listening?Before you start to write your speech there's something you need to find out. This may seem obvious but you need to know what sort of audience you will have. I know it's a wedding reception but will there be elderly relatives who may be hard of hearing or young children who can't sit still for very long. Unlike the best man you won't need to alter the content to suit the audience but you may want to take these things into account when delivering the speech.
Don't apologise for mistakesThe audience won't care if you make a mistake in your father of the bride speech. It may seem like a huge mistake to you, but unless you stand there and make huge apologies they probably won't even notice - especially after a few drinks. You're the father of the bride and you are allowed to be upset and proud all at the same time.
Have a conversationAs a starting point for your speech think of it as a converstaion with lots of people. If a new work colleague were to ask you about your daughter for the first time, how would you describe her. Is she funny, serious, hard working, has she done anything silly in her life?The information is very similar to what you'll give in your father of the bride speech, the difference being that the relatives at the wedding won't get a chance to interact with you.
Slow downThe main criticism of anyone giving a speech is that they tend to speak too fast. We all need to slow down and make use of the pause.This pause gives us a chance to take a breath and also gives the listeners time to take in what you've just said. If you've just said something funny they might even have time to laugh!
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Don't talk to the mice!Once you've slowed down make sure that you direct the sound towards the audience. This means looking at them. Don't lower your head to talk to the ground - unless the wedding party is made up of mice!
ClothesStrangely enough what you wear can effect how you speak. Your suit may feel a bit tight or you might feel too hot, it might be a style you'd never, ever wear in your ordinary life. Learning how to deliver your father of the bride speech when you feel self conscious about your wedding suit is possible. Even fathers who wear an ordinary everyday suit can feel uncomfortable.My dad managed to give a short speech but I've never seen him look so uncomfortable - and it wasn't the speech that worried him - just what he was wearing. He couldn't wait to get changed back into his tee shirt!
'm', 'n' or 'b'?If you've got some elderly people at the reception make extra sure that you sound the last consonant in every word. If you don't emphasize the last consonant of a word the people sitting at the back and those with hearing problems will find it almost impossible to distinguish between words.For example, the difference between rum, run and rub is only the last letter. If your audience can't hear the last sound all they will hear is 'ru..'. They will have to guess which word you have spoken. Exercises to practise at home can be found here. Taking the time to finish these words will also slow your speech down.
SmileIf you feel your mouth drying out, try to smile. This causes saliva to be present in the mouth!!
The next stageHopefully you've now got some ideas for your father of the bride speech. The next thing to do is to research and write it and then practise it out loud.
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